How I overcame my addiction...

Fri 10 Sep 2010 4:09:44 AM GMT

From the moment I learned of her story I was drawn to her like no other. What I admire most about her is her spirit of selflessness; an attribute of a god. Her legacy lives because her life is such a testimonial of human potential at its best. We should strive to be more like her everyday. That's how we live the legacy.

Wed 11 Aug 2010 6:23:17 AM GMT

I fell in love with her after learning of her-story. Ma’at Ka Re Hatshepsut is her name, but she is most known for simply Hatsheput. Hatshepsut means foremost of noble ladies and she most definitely became that attribute of her name. Hatshepsut ruled ancient negroland (Africa, Egypt, Kemet) for about 20 years. She was not the first woman to rule as a pharaoh, but she was by far the most successful. She ruled peacefully and by force if that is what it took. Some of her accomplishments included focus on domestic affairs, improving foreign relations, immense building projects, the expansion of foreign trade, building a grand military to secure the north and the south of negroland, reestablished trade networks , oversaw expedition to the land of Punt, construction of Deir El-Bahri, etc…just to name a few. Her works were remarkable and she reminds me of the abilities and powers that we all possess. For more thorough and well researched details of her life click here.

Wed 28 Jul 2010 6:00:00 PM GMT

Tue 25 May 2010 8:05:39 AM GMT

I used to watch B.E.T. (Black Enslavement Television) just to see how many videos would have women that didn’t look like the average video chick. In all fairness there were times that I saw some, but it was only a drop in a bucket. As strange as this may seem this was kind of like my rehab because it turned me totally off from depending on channels like B.E.T. to represent Black women in all of our beautiful hues.

February 2006 I relapsed as I sit there watching the Grammy’s. For some reason I thought that things would miraculously change. So, Kanye West and Jamie Foxx marched through the audience with their marching band gear on and I was hyped because I am from the South. Little did I know that what would soon occur would be the moment that I would overcome my addiction. A little pass half way through the performance (3:55) what I saw had me so vexed I wanted to fight. I did not want to fight physically, but I wanted to fight for black women getting her respect back. In front of the world the dancing girls were shaking, popping and bending over showing their behinds, but the icing on the cake was when the men in black T-shirts referred to the women as hoes. I was embarrassed for us a people because we seem to be the only ones that disrespect our women in front of others. Here is the video, check it out.

I have been clean for four (4) years now due to a 6 step program that I created. (1) Do not support artists that sell their soul for wealth at the expense of their people, (2) Turn off the television, or tell lies visually, (3) Know that it is not an honor to be a video chick or black female artist (no matter what the color) if self respect is forsaken for fame or wealth, (4) Accept that mainstream media is not ready for black beauty in all its magnificence, (5) Find creative ways to grow and develop according to what moves you and (6) Accept your beautiful self. Respond to this blog and let me know what you’re thinking.

How I overcame my addiction...

Tue 25 May 2010 4:35:57 AM GMT

17 Ways Black Women can love themselves

Thu 22 Oct 2009 4:57:55 AM GMT

Discriminate what you allow to enter your body (mouth,ears, eyes,etc.)

Treat your body like a holy shrine

Maintain proper hygeine(regular Dr. and dental visits)

Know the importance of presentation ~ you say a thousand words just by the way you dress

Maintain clean living spaces

Take time to decorate and make your living space beautiful and comfortable

Value your thoughts without seeking approval

Take pride in what you have

Utilize your time wisely

Say NO sometimes without regret

Be selfish sometimes

Have confidence in your abilities

Speak your mind

Don't be afraid to be who you are

Eat nutritional foods

Don't tolerate mental, verbal or physical abuse

Don't look for happiness outside of yourself

I heard a sister say that often times we confuse self love with pampering and I find this to be true. It is not the same thing. I know plenty of sisters that get their hair and nails done regularly, but are still insecure. Black woman I hope that this helped you gain a better understanding of loving your beautiful black self and that you realize that you are the most important thing happening in your world. The only way to love others is to be filled up first with it.

Black women and their hair

Thu 22 Oct 2009 4:11:05 AM GMT

Black women all over the world have different views about their hair. Some black women love and some black women hate the natural texture created by the Most High creator. Chris Rock's movie documentary "Good Hair" seems to have exposed an old wound of how much black women don't like the natural texture of their hair. So much so that this hatred has created a billion dollar hair care industry. Every woman has the right to wear her hair as she chooses and most women would say that it's all about preference. However, preference is when you choose one thing over another. Truthfully most of these women never really had the right to choose. From the time their mama could put one of those no lye(which is a lye) kiddie perms(which is really a temp until the natural roots start regrowing) in their hair they were forever addicted to the "creamy crack" as it is affectionally called. If you have never rocked your natural hair then wearing straight hair is not a preference it's called conditioning. Some Black women have been so conditioned by society that they are afraid of their natural hair. This movie did not deal with the reasons why so many Black women prefer straight hair over their natural and the fact that Chris Rock's wife rocks a perm makes me question the sincerity of the intent of this film. I stand in judgement on no one especially my sistren, but how would you teach a black girl to love herself naturally when you are living opposite. It just does not add up to me. C'mon sisters it's time to be truthful and real about this issue. It's more about lack of self love and conditioning than preference.

Wed 23 Sep 2009 2:15:32 PM GMT

If you exist then that is all the proof that you need. Think about this for a minute. You out of millions were the fastest and strongest out of millions of sperm to get inside your mama's egg. You are a certified winner... don't let no thing convince you that you are not. Holla.

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Sat 19 Sep 2009 4:48:54 AM GMT

17 Ways black women can love themselves

Fri 18 Sep 2009 4:29:52 PM GMT

Discriminate what you allow to enter your body (mouth,ears, eyes,etc.)
Treat your body like a holy shrine
Maintain proper hygeine(regular Dr. and dental visits)
Know the importance of presentation ~ you say a thousand words just by the way you dress
Maintain clean living spaces
Take time to decorate and make your living space beautiful and comfortable
Value your thoughts without seeking approval
Take pride in what you have
Utilize your time wisely
Say NO sometimes without regret
Be selfish sometimes
Have confidence in your abilities
Speak your mind
Don't be afraid to be who you are
Eat nutritional foods
Don't tolerate mental, verbal or physical abuse
Don't look for happiness outside of yourself

Why black women need to love themselves

Sun 13 Sep 2009 9:07:33 AM GMT

In most instances Black women are the first teachers to black children. In our ancient Afrikan culture she nurtured and taught her children divine principles, this is why she was called the mother of civilization. Her children that she taught created productive and morally upright communities leading to a productive and morally upright world. That is the meaning of the popular phrase "The Mother of Civilization." A great responsibility that our ancestors accomplished as necessary for the survival of the nation. Self Love is needed because it not only affects our world it affects our children, affecting the world. We have to know and love ourselves. So, that we can teach them. Knowing self is learning where you came from and knowing your true essence. Self is the best part of you, the God in you.

Black Women ~ Where did all the hate come from?

Sun 13 Sep 2009 5:23:56 AM GMT

I felt this video very relevant because as Black women we learned self hatred at a very young age. It was not always our way though. Self hatred was not a part of our ancient culture. Women were revered and respected. Afrikan societies were founded on the principles of Matriarchy and this is why we are referred to as the "Mothers of civilization." Our men knew who they were so our relationship with the Black man was not a constant battle. We were worshipped and our beauty was the standard of beauty of worlds renown. We started to hate ourselves during the transcontinental slave trade. We were called "Bitches and Whores" by the oppressor and some of our brothers continue perpetuate the hatred even today. I started this blog to create dialogue and to create a place of refuge and healing for the Black woman. A place that we can talk about our issues, but more importantly work on some solutions together. Together we have the power. Black women the children that you see on this video are a reflection of the love we have for ourselves because we are our children's first teacher. So, it it very important that we establish a healthy sense of SELF LOVE and SELF ESTEEM for ourselves so that we can affect our families , communities and the world. I know we can do it.

Black Women ~ When did we start hating ourselves?

Sun 13 Sep 2009 5:10:08 AM GMT

Black women ....When did we start to hate ourselves?

Sun 13 Sep 2009 4:03:03 AM GMT

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Sat 12 Sep 2009 5:50:53 PM GMT

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Black Women are Beautiful

Sat 12 Sep 2009 4:25:11 PM GMT

"The worst form of female crucifixion is self hate." Black women are the targets of much abuse from society, yet some is self inflicted. I dedicate these series of blogs to her in hopes that she will find a place of refuge and healing. The true essence of the Black woman is beautiful on the inside and out. Take a look. You have probably heard somewhere that she is the mother of civilization. It sounds good and it gives the ego a boost, but what does it really mean? "It was the Afrikan woman who through, the seminal science of the Earth-agriculture, set the stage for humanity's quantum leap for the hunter-gatherer, semi-barbaric level to the solid primary plateau of civilization. That is why she was hailed in olden days as "Mother earth". Titled so because of man's gratitude for her role in the most important advance in the march towards civilization.

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Sat 21 Mar 2009 6:53:54 PM GMT

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